“Ordinary sex,” as you put it, is typically, although not always, more focused on arousal to the point of climax, whereas friction of throbbing body parts builds tension to a threshold of release. In today’s stressful world, people have become subject to invisible, low-frequency energy fields, which perpetuate aggressive behavioral tendencies, and so they desire the intensive release experienced during orgasm. The more tension a human body carries, the greater the relief experienced during orgasm. So if you have been attributing “great sex” to your partner, take heed: it is more likely due to not to set aside ample time for relaxation, which can yield a perpetual orgasm once one is versed in the art of tantra.
In contrast, tantric sex is not about building tension and relieving it, but opening relaxation channels that allow you to remain in a state of blissful ecstasy throughout your entire life—including those periods while you are making love, during which you remain conscious of any tension that may arise during intercourse. Tantric sex includes a delicious component of meditation, which allows you to remain aware of rising tensions so that an otherwise tender and loving situation is not morphed into a solely physical release. While there is certainly nothing wrong with either approach to sex, the former does not lead to freedom from identification with the human cycle of bodily attachment and lust—lust being a subconscious aggression fueled by unconscious sexual expression.
How does tantric sex move us into conscious sexual expression? The answer is: naturally, through focus on increasing our sensitivity using solely our God-given bodies and our awareness. Unnatural sex toys and erectile enhancement drugs are not required, nor recommended. In tantra, lovers attune to the dance of energetic opposites—in this case, the meeting of the male-female polarities. Just as water is a polar molecule carrying both a negative and positive charge, humans are polar beings. A woman’s positive pole is located in her breasts and her negative pole in her vagina, whereas a male’s positive pole is located in his penis and his negative pole in his chest. By design, these complementary forms act as magnets, and through tantric awareness, both lovers draw toward and engulf the circular flow of energy through their innate bioenergetic circuitry, disappearing into sublime stillness. And this circular flow is just the beginning, as it creates the engine for upward movement of sexual energy from the root and sacral chakras, where the genitalia are located, through crown of one’s head. The sacred meeting of positive and negative poles produces ecstatic orgasmic states that can last for hours and eventually become perpetual, sustaining long after the sex act is complete.
As a result of one’s past experiences with “ordinary sex,” related unprocessed emotions may lie dormant within the tissues of the both the male and female genitalia (which correspond on an etheric level with the emotional body) and a tantric approach to sexuality will evoke them for conscious review. Lucky for us, the penis and vagina by design heal each other, quickening our return to unbridled awareness of our natural orgasmic state. As emotions surface, it is helpful to experience our reflections in fellow beings who have come into Self-Awareness through tantra, since the life experiences through which we begin to know our true Self on the path of tantra run so contrary to our conditioning. I promise you this: once you’ve embraced tantric sexuality, nothing is ordinary anymore.
